Hi! I'm Kerstin. Coach, writer, and reformed grudge holder. Also dreaming of being the next Grizzly Adams {albeit with cell service}. I help you take your business from crisis-prone to crisis-proof, with better boundaries, stellar self-care, and more mindfulness. Why?

 

Short story:

I believe that life and business are about being the best you can be, self-care is the secret weapon to get there, and crisis-proofing {yourself and your business} is the key to staying there. 


Long{er} story:  

I have good memories of my childhood, and bad ones. Just like you. My father was an incredibly authoritarian person, and the only authority that meant anything was his. If I had to give my childhood and adolescence a theme, it would be "blame & shame". Who's to blame {for whatever} and how can they be shamed into submission? I did not care for that theme. In fact, I credit this theme {and therefore my father - oh, the irony!} for developing a strong aversion to shame and a big affinity for defiance and resilience. That's what fuels me - defiance and resilience. To call bullsh*t when needed, and to keep moving forward no matter what. My father used to call me a rebel, and it was not meant as a compliment - but for me it was a badge of honour.

 

There's another thing I credit my father with: my sense for business. He was a fantastic {and very successful} entrepreneur. As nasty as he was to his wife and kids, everyone who did business with him was blown away by his expertise and fairness. I soaked up as much of his knowledge as I could, and still use it to guide most of my business decisions. 

 

Eventually, the combination of my experiences together with the desire to keep building resilience, brought me to become a life and business coach. After I became certified in 2005, I decided to keep going and become a psychotherapist. It seemed like a natural progression, but it wasn't. Because coaching puts a focus on wellness, and psychotherapy deals with illness - and I know I can make more of a difference by bringing together self-care, crisis-proofing, and business. I may be a badass {I sure like to think so}, but I am not cut out to be a doctor. I finished my training in late 2006, and in January 2008 we moved to Canada. 

 

I am not a doctor, and I don't play one on the internet, but I have an extensive background in coaching and psychotherapy - and that, together with my business sense, has been the driving force for creating tools for better. Because life and business are about being the best you can be, self-care is the secret weapon to get there, and crisis-proofing {yourself and your business} is the key to staying there. 

 

 

What else is there to say?

 

Yes, it's true. I own the domain kerstin.ca. I know, right? At the beginning of 2017,  I decided to have a look at all the domains I own in my godaddy.ca account, and when I logged in, the ghost in the machine asked me if I wanted to buy the domain kerstin.ca, $26.23 (Canadian Dollars!), for two years. Um, yeah! 

 

 

I know how to say "no". People often don't know how to react to that, because they don't expect it. {Some say I have a tendency to piss people off. That's where that comes from.} Having firm boundaries and not apologizing for them? Simultaneously the hardest and easiest thing ever.

 

 

 

"It's totally true. She really does know how to say "no". Keeps telling me forever to stop barking and she means it. But she buys me awesome treats, so I'm good with that." ~ Jacob


 

I'm a master at not scratching itches. When I was a kid/teenager, I had really bad dermatitis. I used to scratch until I bled. At 17, it had gotten so bad that I was hospitalized for 7 weeks in a specialized clinic in Switzerland. There, I learned how not to scratch those itches. It's almost like meditating. You concentrate on the itch and at first it gets worse, but then it will stop {or at least you'll get used to it and accept it as part of you}. It really works. But only if you're mindful about it.

My dermatitis went away after my first pregnancy {thanks, PJ!}, but my ninja itch skillz stayed. Mosquitos have nothing on me. Plus the technique helps with figurative itches as well. Feelings of restlessness, stress, indecision? Hone in on the feeling and watch it either disappear or become a part of you. Boom.

 

 

 

"You're welcome, mom. Let's see, what can I say about you... I would describe my mom as badass and cool. And, I don't know how she does it, but she's always right." ~ PJ


 

The most important thing I learned in college is to always question authority. I attended the University of Colorado in Boulder, and one of the general courses I took in my freshman year was American History 101. The professor was very young, and part douche bag, part awesome {a very intriguing mix, but gets old quickly}. He frequently said: "Always question authority", very appropriate for a history class, because questioning authority is how history is made and how change happens.

But it doesn't always have to be on a grand scale. There are many figures of authority in our lives, sometimes people who actually know stuff, and sometimes people who are self-proclaimed experts. It's not always easy to know the difference, but it's always possible to question - with respect and kindness. Most of the time, the reaction will tell you whether they're an actual expert or not. 

I question everyone and everything, because I want to be well-informed and I need to know whether I can trust someone. And I teach my kids the same thing. It's ok to question a doctor, teacher, or lawyer. You don't have to take everything they say as the gospel. Of course this comes with a price. Because as soon as you know what you want to know, you may not be happy with the situation anymore - and that's when growth and change happens. You make your own history and write your own story! 

 

P.S. - logo and graphic design by the insanely talented Ashley White at tsavodesigns.com | profile pic by my very talented son Marius; stock photos by Pixabay,  Death to the Stockphoto, and Haute Chocolate